Comments on: The Pursuit OF and IN Marriage http://lifeasmission.com/blog/2008/08/the-pursuit-of-and-in-marriage/ exploring the mystery of life and mission as one and the same Wed, 25 Jan 2012 16:31:39 +0000 hourly 1 http://wordpress.org/?v=3.3.1 By: sarah christoph http://lifeasmission.com/blog/2008/08/the-pursuit-of-and-in-marriage/comment-page-1/#comment-5023 sarah christoph Thu, 07 Aug 2008 01:20:27 +0000 http://lifeasmission.com/blog/?p=557#comment-5023 So true! goodness!... and the pursuing needs to be from <strong><em>both</em></strong> spouses in my opinion. When only one spouse continually seeks out the other, the relationship is one sided and all kinds of awful problems develop. Honest communication and self sacrificing is required in relationships as well because no one will feel like pursuing the other <em>all</em> of the time, but if both are pursuing Christ and encouraging, praying for, etc.  their husband/wife in Christ, then even by doing this, they are also pursuing each other in a sense. From what I've experienced, even if you are the one pursuing most of the time, the absense of relationship with Christ (or pursuit of Him) ultimately leads to burn out and hopelessness. Any close relationship for that matter, can be closer and more fulfilling with Christ.  As a side note, I am thankful that though I am imperfect and fail to pursue Christ as much as I should, He is perfect and His love never fails towards us- He doesn't get burnt out by our lack of interest or pursuit, instead He keeps on loving us and being faithful to us when we are not loving... but I believe He always hopes for our pursuit, waits and anticipates it, longs for it- and just that makes me want to let him have me!    So true! goodness!… and the pursuing needs to be from both spouses in my opinion. When only one spouse continually seeks out the other, the relationship is one sided and all kinds of awful problems develop. Honest communication and self sacrificing is required in relationships as well because no one will feel like pursuing the other all of the time, but if both are pursuing Christ and encouraging, praying for, etc.  their husband/wife in Christ, then even by doing this, they are also pursuing each other in a sense. From what I’ve experienced, even if you are the one pursuing most of the time, the absense of relationship with Christ (or pursuit of Him) ultimately leads to burn out and hopelessness. Any close relationship for that matter, can be closer and more fulfilling with Christ.  As a side note, I am thankful that though I am imperfect and fail to pursue Christ as much as I should, He is perfect and His love never fails towards us- He doesn’t get burnt out by our lack of interest or pursuit, instead He keeps on loving us and being faithful to us when we are not loving… but I believe He always hopes for our pursuit, waits and anticipates it, longs for it- and just that makes me want to let him have me!   

]]> By: JR Rozko http://lifeasmission.com/blog/2008/08/the-pursuit-of-and-in-marriage/comment-page-1/#comment-5020 JR Rozko Wed, 06 Aug 2008 19:43:33 +0000 http://lifeasmission.com/blog/?p=557#comment-5020 @Jason - I actually had you in mind when I wrote this on account of your anniversary post.  I think you model what I was talking about here really well. @Katie - Thanks, but maybe we'll just lean on the experienced wisdom of our married friends! @Patti - Well, well, look who's commenting now! @Jason – I actually had you in mind when I wrote this on account of your anniversary post.  I think you model what I was talking about here really well.

@Katie – Thanks, but maybe we’ll just lean on the experienced wisdom of our married friends!

@Patti – Well, well, look who’s commenting now!

]]> By: Patti http://lifeasmission.com/blog/2008/08/the-pursuit-of-and-in-marriage/comment-page-1/#comment-5013 Patti Wed, 06 Aug 2008 14:55:19 +0000 http://lifeasmission.com/blog/?p=557#comment-5013 My favorite blogger is back!! My favorite blogger is back!!

]]> By: Katie Cordell http://lifeasmission.com/blog/2008/08/the-pursuit-of-and-in-marriage/comment-page-1/#comment-5012 Katie Cordell Wed, 06 Aug 2008 14:44:41 +0000 http://lifeasmission.com/blog/?p=557#comment-5012 Beautifully said JR. I think you should lead tonight! Beautifully said JR. I think you should lead tonight!

]]> By: Jason Z. http://lifeasmission.com/blog/2008/08/the-pursuit-of-and-in-marriage/comment-page-1/#comment-5011 Jason Z. Wed, 06 Aug 2008 03:13:01 +0000 http://lifeasmission.com/blog/?p=557#comment-5011 Hi JR. Good post on marriage. And coincidentally, on the day Debbie and I celebrate our 19th wedding anniversary.  I remember two concepts that I learned on my journey of marriage that have helped me continuously pursue my wife. The first was grasping the fact that Debbie was God's unique gift just for me. Realizing that she wasn't just someone I "chose" or "won" but rather God's gracious gift to me turned my marriage into a daily journey of growth with Debbie. The second concept I learned was that the priority of marriage is to make Debbie and me holy more than happy. This means learning to joyfully serve and sacrifice for my wife rather than looking at her as the source of my happiness. And in the midst of serving and sacrificing with joy, I discover wonderful happiness through her. Thanks for your post. Hi JR. Good post on marriage. And coincidentally, on the day Debbie and I celebrate our 19th wedding anniversary. 

I remember two concepts that I learned on my journey of marriage that have helped me continuously pursue my wife. The first was grasping the fact that Debbie was God’s unique gift just for me. Realizing that she wasn’t just someone I “chose” or “won” but rather God’s gracious gift to me turned my marriage into a daily journey of growth with Debbie.

The second concept I learned was that the priority of marriage is to make Debbie and me holy more than happy. This means learning to joyfully serve and sacrifice for my wife rather than looking at her as the source of my happiness. And in the midst of serving and sacrificing with joy, I discover wonderful happiness through her.

Thanks for your post.

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